Femininity: The quality of being female.
The concept of being a female and what that entails is often thrown into the air with very basic and stereotyped messages that we frequently misinterpret as the right thing.
When I was in high school, my teachers frequently gave me rewards for being feminine; I had gone from being just a girl to be a role model for my classmates on how to be a “proper girl.” I was delicate, I sat with my legs shut, I was well spoken and I was often uncomfortable. At that age, I wasn’t aware of what they were doing to me and I had no idea of the damage that would cause on my self-expression.
Uninformed, my teachers put the word femininity into this box made of glass hiding at the top of this unreachable pedestal, classifying girls with very few being what they called “unique ladies” and diminishing the “common ones,” the ones who didn’t meet their standards of femininity.
I don’t blame them, I grew up in a culture that at the time, didn’t know any better. However, the problem continues in Colombia, in America, in the U.K, everywhere. Women are labeled in every possible way every day because somehow we’re never the right amount of something: we’re too open about our sexuality, we’re too high maintenance, we’re not delicate enough, we don’t have enough curves, we have too much meat in our bodies…
But here’s the deal, femininity is being a female, and being a female is whatever a woman desires to be. By putting all these stupid labels on female foreheads, we’re stopping girls from being their most authentic selves and expressing who they truly want to be. Just by being a woman gives her the right to be quiet, or loud, or both. She can be strong, delicate, or both. She can be high sexually driven or not. She can eat a lot, or eat very little. It doesn’t matter. She can be anything she wants to be and that’s what September’s influences are based on: the tenderness and strength of a woman’s body and soul as well as, her ability of leadership and independency to accomplish her desires. This month influences are focused on her right to be whatever she wants to be.
Pale pinks, nude tones and deep greens set the mood for what inspires me this month. From the texture of her lips, the shape of her feet, the magic of her hands, the kindness of her heart, to the gentleness in her voice, the wilderness of her brain and the rush of blood running through her veins, making her daydreams a reality every day.
The idea of her going back and forth on a swing, throwing her head back, laughing; waking up in the morning, wearing mascara on, rocking denim from head to toe, ready to do her own thing, to pave her own path towards success. She’s not scared of being alone, she’s not intimidated by the 10 men in the meeting room, she’s the boss, she’s got her sass on and nobody can’t stop her, nobody can deny her anything, nobody can destroy her. She’s unstoppable, her emotions are her weapons and her intelligence is her power. She’s got this and she’s going to run the world because she owns it.
Here’s some lovely inspiring ladies from the web who are worth checking out:
On Instagram: Rachel Sullivan @Danceswithcircles is one of my favorite ladies of all time! She’s not only stunning but she’s also a great dancer and a huge positive body image supporter. She’s a total badass sending her messages into the universe with her moves and tricks with the hoopla hoop. Her posts on my feed are a constant reminder to do my own thing and love myself every minute.
On Snapchat: I have one hell of a crush on Kayla @Moon.Prism for being as honest as she is on Snapchat. I’ve learned to love her through her words and stories, her dances and song selections. She’s a warrior, an explorer, an amazing photographer/videographer and very talented jewelry designer. Her strength and positivity shines through all of her social media and I can’t never get enough. She’s simply a beautiful soul sending everyone good energies. (You can also find her on Instagram as @littleoregon)
On the Blogsphere: Rebecca @Fromrosesxo of From Roses is so genuine and delicate in her way of writing and photograph that you’ll be able to tell she’s being herself right away! Her tone is gentle yet very expressive and forward, I enjoy that mix in her articles and the visuals of her blog. She’s so worth the read and a great example of an introvert being her fully self on the internet.
Simply everywhere: Ruth Finn Leiser @Roobs_grlclb is a feminist who’s educating people through her embroidery and writings on sexual inequality, and while at it she also refers to inequality of any sort. Following her creative process and determination to stand up for women’s right is a pleasure and most definitely a source of inspiration and knowledge. She’s a leader, a kick ass running the GRL CLB, join her!
Who are your current favorite girls to follow online?